Five of My Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Anxiety
It's no secret that I have pretty bad anxiety at times. I am very vocal about the struggles I face. Here are a few tips and tricks I have developed to cope with my anxiety.
HEALTHY COPING MECHANISMS:
1.) Breathing. One of the hardest things to learn how to do with as much anxiety I have is to meditate. I can't focus or stay still for that long because it feels like bugs are trying to escape out of the tips of my toes and fingers. However, breathing was something I was able to take away from learning to meditate. Fuck counting down or counting at all. That's too many things to think about HAVING to do at once, while already having an overwhelming amount on my mind. I have a very simple technique... both feet on the ground and I take slow deep breaths in through my nose and out through my mouth. I continue this until I feel my body unclench.
2.) There are often times that I have a series of jumbled up thoughts floating around my head. I can't make sense of them when I am just thinking. So there are often times I will tell my emotional support human, "alright I am going to tell you about a thing that I am thinking about. I don't expect you to have an answer. I just need to share these thoughts with someone before I explode!". When I share them, and I say all the things out loud, everything starts to make sense. I can make rational decisions. Not only that, but because I am sharing with someone, they can also provide input that helps. Either they can help reassure my feelings or tell me what I need to hear in order to get through my emotional struggle. A lot of time my consuming thoughts are about a decision I have to make, or a negative feeling I have about myself. Its a relief to be able to talk them out with someone I can trust. Get yourself an emotional support human.
3.) Hear me out... Bubble bath. This has to be one of the best forms of therapy for me. I have no choice but to relax and unwind, even if its for 10 minutes. Everyone does their version of a bath differently. Me... I make it a production. I have candles, bubbles, bath bombs, a bath pillow, and often times wine. I invest in my bath time and the products that I use as well. I think it's really important to take that extra time, at least once a month, and just completely relax. My adulting goal in life is to own a claw foot tub so I can REALLY enjoy the bath.
4.) Music can work wonders for any mood I am in. If I am angry I will blast rock music. If I am sad I will sing to sad songs. If I am happy I will dance to 2000s hip hop in my car. Well, if I have a lot of anxiety I will listen to Cello music. Not sure what it nor do I want to think about it. It immediately relaxes every tense nerve in my body.
5.) When I have no one to talk to, or a way to get out what is on my mind I will write. Hence my blog. But I also write on paper. Or in a post on instagram and/or facebook. I also make lists. Making a list is one of my favorite ways to organize my thoughts. Shopping lists, to-do lists, etc. Writing is definitely a passion I have that helps with my anxiety.
On top of these coping mechanisms I have developed unhealthy ones that I am working through. I am only human after all and definitely less than perfect. Every day is a different struggle for me. However, no matter with what I am faced, I know I am strong enough to face the day.
Shout out to all of us fighting a battle that most people don't understand. Keep hanging in there!